There was a time I referred to certain behaviours and traits as the signs of a weak man.
Not weak in a physical sense, but weak in spirit.
Weak in responsibility.
Weak in purpose.
The man who complains instead of contributes.
The one who hides behind ego and aggression because he has no inner compass.
The one who lacks initiative, communication, and discipline, but still feels entitled to success, respect, and status.
I saw these men everywhere. In business. In gyms. In social circles.
And to be honest, I judged them. I called it what I thought it was...weakness.
But over time, through my own personal growth, coaching others, and researching deeper psychology, I’ve come to a clearer realisation:
It’s not just that these men are weak… It’s that they are unmade .
Not Weak. Unmade.
We’re all born incomplete. Shaped by experience, environment, role models, or lack thereof.
Some men grow with purpose. Others coast on patterns. Some fight to build their identity. Others borrow one to fit in.
So when I meet a man who lacks self-awareness, discipline, or confidence I don’t see someone broken.
I see someone unfinished.
Someone who hasn’t yet been challenged to define who they are.
Someone who hasn’t taken full responsibility for their life.
Someone who is still outsourcing their identity to comfort, ego, or fantasy.
That’s not a bad person. But it is a dangerous one, to himself and others.
Because a man who hasn’t made himself will always live in delusion.
And a man in delusion is capable of anything: blame, denial, manipulation, avoidance and eventually collapse or destruction.
The Mirror You Need to Face
So here’s the question:
Are you the man you want to be?
Or are you still living out a version of yourself that was shaped by childhood wounds, external validation, fear, or laziness?
If you’re not getting the outcomes you want in life, the relationships, the respect, the progress, then there are traits within you that need to be faced.
I call these the traits of The Unmade Man:
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Entitlement without effort
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Ego without substance
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Avoidance of responsibility
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Poor communication masked as conflict
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Insecurity disguised as arrogance
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Isolation from tribe or purpose
None of these are fixed.
But they are symptoms.
Symptoms of a man who hasn’t yet done the work to define who he is.
Brutal Honesty Is the First Step
This journey isn’t about shame. It’s about truth.
Can you be raw enough to ask yourself:
- Am I living in alignment with my potential?
- Do I take responsibility for the way I think, speak, act?
- Do I give more than I take?
- Do I know my values and live by them?
If the answer is no, good. That’s your starting line.
The man who lies to himself stays unmade forever.
But the man who confronts the gap between who he is and who he could be, that’s a man with a shot at strength.
From Weakness to Will
When you name your shadow, you gain power over it.
So yes, the term “weak man” may sound harsh. But I used it for a reason.
It cuts through. It wakes you up.
But now we evolve it.
Because what I’ve realised is this:
The “weak man” isn’t just weak. He’s unformed. He is The Unmade Man.
And this project, these words, the book I am writing, this movement, is for him.
Not to ridicule. But to rebuild.
Not to shame. But to sharpen.
To help him define his values, discover his purpose, and build the self-esteem that only comes from earned confidence.
Because the unmade man can become something great.
But only if he’s willing to make himself.